The sequel. The next episode. Part 2 – we all see this in movies that left us hanging, at the edge of our seats. Gasping for air and heart beating fast, we are all glued to the screen for the next scene. But then…there is black out. The movie credits begin to appear. Is there something more to expect?
Consequently, what if that same guy who left you with nothing but doubts, questions, hurt, pain, anger and no future in sight…suddenly makes a comeback? Out of nowhere, he shows up in front of you. How would you feel? How would you react? How would you handle the next scenes of your life?
Be a HUMAN BEING –
Whatever state you are in at that very moment, always start with a positive outlook. Don’t over think the situation. Approach it in a logical way. Welcome the opportunity that both of you now have that communication that should have happened way back. You have been separated by both time and space and there is no other way to reconnect (for good or for worse) than to release those words left unspoken. After all, you’ve shared the best and worst times before.
Remember, a guy would never spend time and much effort to anything if it’s not important to him. So make the most out of it while you can, because he will. Pour out your heart, your mind and your whole you. Don’t hold back. Now is the time to hear and be heard.
You have TWO OPTIONS –
Now that you have exchanged words, emotions, and everything in between, you have to make a choice (and hope by now you’ve realized how much he wants you back).
Option 1 – You make up your mind. You want to move on. You are on your way to a new life without him.
Option 2 – You make up your mind. You want to move on. You are on your way to a new life with him…again.
Two options only. Nothing more in between. Don’t complicate the situation. You are on a crossroad, not a maze. To the left or to the right. Which way? What now?
Settle FOR the BETTER –
When Douglas MacArthur said those words, “I shall return,” he gave hope to a people devastated by unfair treatment and utmost pain. When your guy made that decision to return, he already made his choice. He came to his senses that whatever it takes, he will not let this situation slip away. He took the risk. He made the big step. He hopes for the better this time.
But how about you?
Whichever option you take, always settle for the better. Better in a sense that you will not regret your decision for the rest of your life. Better in a sense that both of you would benefit from it, and not just one or the other. Consider all aspects. Never focus on the downside. Always give more weight to better times. Be alive. Take the winding road with a lot of corners but never a dull moment. Make that path where no one else has dared to walk.
After all is said and done, be honest. Tell it straight in his eyes. Don’t just send a single text message. Talk it over again, face to face. No other means to seal the deal than an honest to goodness answer. The Bible says in Proverbs 24:26 (NIV), “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” You know it in your heart. Search for it. Go down deeper, look for that genuine thing inside of you. You don’t have to decide right away. Make time your ally. Smell the flowers. Watch the sun rise from the east. Cry over your favorite telenovela. Crave for your vanilla ice cream. Count the stars at night. Ask yourself a thousand times. Then, and only then, will you be able to create the next chapter that would somehow define the rest of the story.
“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:6-7 (NIV)
Learn to unlearn. Revive to survive. Let go but never go alone. Sometimes, a new beginning starts with a bitter ending.